When I saw these rules, I thought they were written for me personally. One of the issues that I struggle with is guilt over events that should be too old to count any longer. I am certainly not the only person who said or did things that she regretted later, yet somehow it’s different for me. I have difficulty forgiving myself for my very human nature.
That’s why i like these rules. Make peace with past so it won’t screw up your present –don’t let your past failings cast a shadow on the rest of your life! Learn and move on. Give yourself permission to do that. Don’t miss out on life.
What others think about you is none of your business. Time spent worrying about what other people think, is time wasted – no one is going to like you all the time. And the ONLY person you have to answer to is yourself.
Time heals almost everything – give it time. in this day of high speed internet and twenty-four hour news, I find that people often don’t have the time, or take the time, to process their feelings. And they are surprised to find out that sometimes, it just takes time.
Don’t compare your life to others – and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is about. What seems easy on from your perspective may be a struggle for another person. As a therapist, I know that what I see on the outside is often different from the way clients feel on the inside.
Stop thinking too much – it’s okay not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it. Back to high speed internet and twenty-four hour news. You cannot Google the answer to every question. Sometimes you have to take more time, gather more information. Sit with your feelings, take a walk, talk to a friend. Some of my best ideas come when I am outside jogging.
No one is in charge of your happiness but you – not your partner, not your kids, not your pet. You get to figure out what males you happy every single day. It doesn’t have to cost any money, it doesn’t have to be complicated. But try to make yourself happy every day.
Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world. They may feel huge, even insurmountable, but there is always going to be someone who is worse off than you are. Instead of thinking about your problems, try thinking about things you for which you are grateful. When I put my gratitude list up against my problem list, I find that the problems get trumped every time.
The 7 rules remind us to stay in the present, to forgive others, to give ourselves time, to treat ourselves and others gently. Finally, they give us permission to keep our world small when we need to.