I was recently featured on DivorcePros to discuss domestic violence in a relationship:
DivorcePros interviewed Nancy Lewis, a Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco about what to do if you are getting out of an abusive relationship and how to recover afterwards. Take a read of the great information Nancy provided us.
1. I want to file for a divorce but my partner is physically violent with me, what should I do?
It’s important to have support, and it’s important to have a plan. First of all, if your partner is physically violent, you should contact the police, as well as your local battered women’s shelter. If possible, you will want to leave in a way that is safe, so that you don’t get hurt. Many victims of violence are isolated, as a part of the abuse. Because of the isolation, they believe there is no place to go. Shelters will have temporary housing, as well as resources for help with restraining orders and court appearances. Shelters often have resources for group and individual therapy, which are important in addressing the feelings of blame and shame that go along with victimization. If you have a job, confide in your supervisor, or someone in HR. If you have children, let their school or daycare know. This is especially important if the police are involved.