Did you make New Year’s resolutions this year? Lose 5 pounds, get to the gym more often, and eat healthier meals. These are common resolutions people make, that often don’t last longer than a couple of weeks.
Have you ever wondered why that happens? I believe it’s because when we make resolutions, we set arbitrary goals, with no idea of how we’re going to achieve them. Five pounds might as well be fifty pounds, and the gym might as well be Annapurna. How can you possibly achieve something so vague and random?
The answer is you can’t. Unless you understand how you are going to reach your goal, it is almost impossible to achieve it.
For instance, you can’t lose five pounds just by wishing it. Going to the gym more often might help, but you need to understand how your body uses food as fuel, how your metabolism works, and how much food is enough to sustain you through your busy life. Eating less food isn’t always the answer – if your body doesn’t get enough, your metabolism will slow down, and you won’t lose an ounce. Add a salad to your dinner, and you add not only nutrients, but fiber that will aid in digestion. Eliminating fatty snacks will help, but you might still be hungry. Add some raw vegetables like carrots and broccoli you have the benefit of low calorie, high fiber foods that are nutritious.
The same theory applies to every resolution on your list. Take a piece of paper and write your resolution at the top. On the next line, write down something that you are willing to give up in order to reach your goal. Keep writing down your ideas, and try to include some things that you don’t really want to give up, but they are important. Write down what keeps you from making the changes you want to make: is it fear, laziness, or anger? Is it your job, your partner, or your pet?
Are there lifestyle changes you will need to embrace? That might mean bringing your lunch instead of eating out. It might mean taking a brisk walk at lunch. It might mean joining a support group like Weight Watchers.
When you’ve broken down your resolution in to small, doable parts, it can be much easier to face. Sometimes, finding a buddy to help makes it easier – have someone to talk to about your successes and setbacks. The most important thing to remember is that you aren’t a bad person if you can’t stick with your resolution. You’re a good person who is trying to figure it out.