This weekend I have been thinking about getting the Christmas decorations out of storage and up on the track lights (where I hang them). It occurred to me that this is the weekend that my mother would be doing the same thing – getting out the ornaments and lights for the tree. I grew up on a farm with woods. On Saturday afternoon, the whole family tramped up the hill and in to the forest of trees. Invariably, the tree we chose had a large naked spot or two somewhere on the trunk. My father would cut a branch or two from another tree and with a couple of screws and some wire; he would make the tree lovely. It never occurred to him that he could do some proactive trimming; that is, grooming a tree for next Christmas. But a pre-perfect tree wouldn’t fit in with tradition. The tradition was that while my mother and brothers and I untangled and tested the lights, my father would be operating on the tree. Then we would have eggnog while we decorated the tree. I still remember that time fondly.
What traditions do you have with your family? Do you open presents on Christmas Eve or on Christmas Day? Do you go to church on Christmas Eve? Have a big dinner? Go to the movies with friends? It doesn’t really matter what you do – sharing traditions is something that makes us feel a part of the world. What traditions do you have for yourself? LISTE DES jeux casino gratuit ET HORAIRESOuvert tous les jours à partir de 14 h. An annual makeover at the Clinique department?
If your traditions need some tweaking, think about what you would like to do. Traditions don’t have to cost money – Ask your partner, spouse, kids. Be creative. You might decide to take a hike and have a picnic at the beach. You might decide to go someplace special. If you feel like giving back to the community, before your own celebration, volunteer at a homeless shelter or dining room. Volunteer at the Food Bank, and help deliver a boxed Christmas dinner, with a frozen turkey, to disabled people and shut-ins who can’t get out shopping. Volunteer at a convalescent home. Take a walk at the beach – think about everything you have to be grateful for this year.
If you are newly single, the holidays can be difficult. Some friends will take sides in the relationship, and you may find yourself surprised. It feels personal, but it isn’t. Sometimes folks can’t be in the middle, and when a couple splits, they take sides. If you have children, you and your ex are going to have to figure out how to share time with them. That means that “family traditions” may fall to the wayside. Or you may have to negotiate them. You and your kids may experience some sadness over the changes, but you have a chance to make new traditions and celebrations. Your children will take your lead – brainstorm ideas with them, and you can come up with ideas and goals for future holidays. Most important – encourage your children to enjoy their time with the other parent. It’s about them.
The message I want you to take home is that traditions are what you make them. Reach out to the people you love, and have a happy holiday.